Showing posts with label ordinary. Show all posts
Showing posts with label ordinary. Show all posts

Sunday, September 11, 2011

The ordinariness of being extraordinary

Let me begin this with a disclaimer. I don’t mean that being extraordinary is anything ordinary. I do mean instead, that all of us have the potential to be extraordinary, and it is not as unusual as you might think. Therefore - the ordinariness of being extraordinary!

Think about this, it is easier to lean back and watch TV than to live our life every day. In fact, I wrote this in my first book. In the same vein, it is easier to look up to others rather than look within to discover the seeds of greatness inside us. We are born to be extraordinary, how could nature have meant it any other way?

Like so many of you who might be reading this piece, I’ve had my share of what I call – living-weekend-to-weekend. And it did feel like a ‘weakend’ because I was too tired to do anything but exist in anticipation of my next vacation. The idea was to plod through life until there was a sensible reason to show more enthusiasm. Most times, none was required.

Thankfully, I did realize that this wasn’t anywhere close to living my life. Pain generally brings out deep memories. And mine reminded me of my father and mother’s ambition of seeing me do extraordinary things – like most normal parents wish, I am sure. With a halfhearted internal fight followed by sheepish acceptance, I realized I was responsible for my ordinariness. That too, in a situation with obvious privileges that only a miniscule % of the world population can boast of (read, clean drinking water, food, shelter, clothing, education, family support, job, and a bank balance).

I had been at grave fault. Firstly, of taking my good fortune for granted and secondly, of not recognizing my mistake sooner. Far too many years had passed by living a garden variety kind of existence. Not that I did not stand out on occasion or do meritorious work as a professional but that I stopped there. And didn’t explore how I might have multiplied my achievements to make my life extraordinary every single day. The latter part is a different ball game altogether.

My journey has brought me to a point where I believe it is not my choice to be ordinary anymore; I feel compelled to strive for the extraordinary – everyday. I might miserably fail on certain days, but I still sleep with utmost satisfaction in the awareness of my choices and decisions on that day.

It is also a great responsibility we owe to our own potential, talent, education, and experience. What is any of these worth if we aren’t endeavoring to make of them more than our daily bread?

Now, to answer what constitutes extraordinary? Extraordinary can vary vastly in subject, but is united in spirit, I feel. And to make this even better, here is the idea of extraordinary spelled out as beautifully as I can ever hope to express it myself...

“When you are inspired by some great purpose, some extraordinary project; all your thoughts break their bonds: Your mind transcends limitations, your consciousness expands in every direction, and you find yourself in a new, great, and wonderful world. Dormant forces, faculties and talents become alive, and your discover yourself to be a greater person by far than you ever dreamed yourself to be,” said Patanjali.

This one is dedicated to that unexplored, untapped, and amazingly potent core within all of us, waiting to propel our life to heights you and I have not yet imagined.  

PS: Let me know what you think, and what has been your experience, will love to hear.

Thursday, August 11, 2011

Five ways to be an extraordinary person

The best way I can define extraordinary is this.They are people who get it right. Not just do they succeed in their purpose, but enjoy the fruits of it. They seem to live a good life without getting hassled. They are poised and prepared for success. And their success is meaningful.

We all know that one person we think is living an extraordinary life. But that is someone else. How about you and me? Can you become that extraordinary person?

Here are my five ways to become an extraordinary person. I do my share of all of this everyday. You could start today - literally.

1. BELIEVE: Self-doubt and extraordinary never go together. If you have any doubt that you can't become extraordinary, your journey got tough right away. I recommend that we have more belief in our abilities and talents than sounds reasonable, even to us. What might be the results if you believed in yourselves more than anyone else around does or can? Extraordinary people have a huge amount of belief that they are capable of achieving great success.

2. BE PASSIONATE: Have you noticed that those you look up to seem to enjoy everything they do? Here is the secret. They do what they love to do...consciously and consistently. They really LIVE their life! The best way to be passionate about your work and life is to do what you enjoy doing. Doing things for money alone never works. Extraordinary people attract money by loving what they do.

3. FORGIVE: Seriously. Ordinary people waste precious time and energy holding grudges and remembering past hurts. And settling their scores. Walking with baggage slows us down. Extraordinary people understand the importance of feeling energetic and positive everyday. Let the past go, so it can let you go. Make room for your future success.

4. CHOOSE WELL: Just because we get a tempting offer for work, for a partner, for money, or for an opportunity does not mean it is the right thing for us. Choose well. Choose carefully. Extraordinary people take up meaningful projects that resonate with their best strengths and deepest desires. That is how they craft a life of their choice. Choices make up our life. So choose smartly.

5. FINISH: Generally, we are great beginners and poor finishers. Many opportunities that can make our life extraordinary languish in the background as we forget to close the loop on them. Or just get distracted by the pressures of life. Finish what you begin. Get into the discipline of completion. There's less competition there. Extraordinary people know that what gets finished is what gets results.

As with all meaningful things in life, becoming extraordinary is not an overnight task. It takes some time and discipline. Conscious commitment though can turn our life around. What is extraordinary is what gets noticed in our busy world today. Feel free to begin today!