Showing posts with label busy. Show all posts
Showing posts with label busy. Show all posts

Sunday, August 14, 2011

The secret to being successful


It's confounding, confusing, and complicated to succeed. If we watch too much reality TV, that is.

Success is not just exciting and enriching - it is surprisingly within reach and logical. In fact, you might be hard-pressed to fail if you realized the secrets of it. In my experience with failing miserably and succeeding spectacularly by turns, I have reached some enlightening secrets to success. Here goes.

Some years ago, after falling into the rut of my work, and doing things that even I found uninspiring, it dawned on me. I had been focusing on the wrong things. My job could never make me successful. Nor could the best organization or boss in the world. I had to make me successful.

‘Job description’ sounds like a boring thing. It is boring. Think about this. Succeeding on goals decided for us by others is self-defeating and contradictory. And what’s on paper, generally fails the reality test. Real success is driven from the inside. Here's the first success fact. We need to align our strengths and talents to our broader role at work.  Once you’ve done that mapping, coming up with creative and brand new ways to expand your usefulness within the role is much faster and easier. Just think up of something no one around you is doing or might even be capable of, but that is the need of the customers and the organization. Everyone will sit up and listen. Trust me.

The other fact about success. Let’s quit blaming our job, organization, and boss. These can contribute to our failure, but are generally not responsible for our success. Success is internal and inside-out. Those on the outside can’t make you succeed even if they wanted to. They can inspire, but only you can crack the final piece. You absolutely need to know what you want to succeed with, when, how, and to what extent – these are fundamental to success. Awareness leads to grand success.

The next fact about success is this. Don’t sign up for someone else’s idea of what will make you successful. It is never wise to repose too much faith in others to rise above our limitations. If we are lucky, we find that one great person to support us. But even that wise person does not know the secrets of our soul. Our inner voice speaks only to us - by design. Superbly successful people listen to everyone’s content, but listen to themselves with absolute intent.

And the last fact about success. Success requires intelligence, but not the kind that is measured by IQ tests. It needs a twist! No matter how experienced, talented, intelligent, or educated you might be – above all - you need to be original. Honestly, succeeding is not hard. There is very little to mess up unless we are unaware of our unique strengths, and that which we do with an individual flair. No one can duplicate that. And that kind of uniqueness brings heaps of success. Remember the law of scarcity - what people can't do or have is what they value and want.

I strongly believe that the road to success is quite clear and easy to spot. You only get lost when your path is leading to goals not suited to you.

Tuesday, August 9, 2011

The hardest kind of honesty

I like people who are honest - about themselves. Among many different traits I can like, I end up noticing and liking this one the most. In fact, think about your own life, I bet you can dislike people on several counts, but you like people on one or two major traits.

Honesty pervades several parts of our life and can be interpreted from as many different angles. Yet the most enduring kind of honesty and probably the hardest of them all is to be honest to ourselves. To be who we are and not be afraid to reflect that in our actions.

I recently had a meeting with the head of a very reputed organization, a man who holds important positions, and does a good job of all of them. I was impressed that he didn't just talk the talk, he walked the talk. Every sms, email, and phone call reflected the values that his job demanded of him. Though that kind of commitment is hardly ever job driven.

We had a great conversation, and at the end I couldn't help asking him how he coped with so many responsibilities and if he was happy being so busy? His answer was prompt and brutally honest. No. He wasn't happy with being that busy and didn't think it was wise to be working as much. He was most disarming when he said, he was at a loss about how to set this right. But he needed to.

I gaped at how someone like him could afford to be so honest. Then I realized, he wasn't being honest to me really, he was just being honest to himself. It was a habit, he couldn't pose to be any one else than who he really was.

I came away a wiser person and now have proof that even when the stakes are high, we can be honest to ourselves and by extension to others. And that's why I think he is so successful.

Thursday, August 4, 2011

The disease of being busy...

What is it with people saying, 'I am busy' in response to all manner of questions.

Let's meet up for dinner. Yeah, lets see, I am really busy.

So, did you watch that movie? Nope, been really busy.

Why don't you get to the doc? Can't, I am busy.

I think some people should get to a doctor pronto because saying 'I am busy' is a disease. And it seems to be contagious. Really. Like a mental affliction that makes us believe we have zero time available to do meaningful things in life. Or fun things, for that matter. Busy people are also innately boring people. That is why they can stand to be so busy at work. See.

So what is humanity so busy with? You might ask. Well, going to work, working, coming  back from work...and repeating the above cycle. That should amount to a good explanation. Especially, for those who see work as a worthy cause to be perpetually busy instead of a means to an end - read - having enough resources to watch movies, meet friends for a drink, go on vacations to exotic places, and shop till you drop.

Okay, some of that is a bit of exaggeration just for fun. But seriously speaking, I have come to intensely dislike people telling me on chat, on phone, on sms, on email, and in person...that they are very busy.

Just puttering around all day at work keeps us busy. Ask yourself how many hours of meaningful, real value-adding, customer dazzling work did you do today? What did you do today that will get you a great appraisal and a possible hike and a much awaited promotion?? Now that is worth being busy over.

Being busy all the time generally means we are mismanaging our time - not being organized, not delegating smartly, not preparing for the week, not keeping commitments, and not being smart in general - that keeps us busy and running around.

The most successful....rich....prominent professionals in the world repeatedly declare in their interviews - that they have time because they are super organized, disciplined, and work smartly. They are never too busy for the important things in life. Are we listening??

Let me see how many days I can count off on my fingers before I hear that wretched phrase -I am busy - again! Cross my heart I'll not be saying it myself.